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The Procrastination Problem By Susan J. Letham Procrastinators delay until
the day after tomorrow what they know they should have done the day before
yesterday. What does procrastination
look like? We all put off working on
unpleasant or tedious tasks from time to time. Washing the car, taking out
garbage, cleaning windows, or making stressful phone calls are no one's idea
of a fun way to spend time. But where most of us do this only occasionally,
procrastinators do it most of the time, and that's where the problems start. Procrastination is a stress factor Procrastination is a behavior
that leads to stress, because it makes plans and wishes fail at what should
be the point of fulfillment: theater tickets and vacation packages sell out
before procrastinators get around to calling. Planes take off, deadlines
pass, jobs go to other applicants--the ones who got their resumes in on time. Procrastination has negative effects The Procrastination Research
Group at Carleton University in Canada did an online survey. They received
2,700 responses to the question, "To what extent is procrastination
having a negative impact on your happiness?" Almost one person in two
(46%) said "quite a bit" or "very much," and around one
person in five (18%) reported an "extreme negative effect." Procrastination threatens happiness Though procrastination is
often trivialized, procrastinators suffer when their careers crash or when
they otherwise fail to reach their potential. Long term and wide scale,
"the big P" can become more than just a threat to personal health,
happiness, and productivity of individuals: it can carry that threat into our
companies and communities. Traits
of the procrastinators How
can you spot a chronic procrastinator? Procrastinators avoid revealing
information about their abilities, they make poor time estimates, they tend
to focus on the past and do not act on their intentions, they may also prefer
service jobs. These characteristics are linked to low self-esteem,
perfectionism, non-competitiveness, self-deception, self-control,
self-confidence, depression and anxiety. There are no easy answers There are no easy "buck
up" answers, though. As Joseph Ferrari, professor of psychology at
DePaul University in Chicago says: "It's not about time management. To
tell a chronic procrastinator to 'Just Do It' is like telling a clinically
depressed person to cheer up." We need to look at the kind of procrastination
people practice to understand the reason they do it and find the appropriate
cure. Why do people procrastinate? Take your pick! Ferrari found
that some procrastinators had particularly authoritarian fathers. He sees the
p-habit as a continuing rebellion against those demands. Others lay the blame
on strong parents who don't leave their children room to develop initiative.
Clary Lay of York University, Toronto, creator of the General Procrastination
Scale, takes a different tack and believes that procrastinators think and act
in terms of "wishes and dreams" while people who do not
procrastinate get on with "oughts and obligations." He says,
"Procrastinators are also neurotically disorganized in their thinking,
making them forgetful and less likely to plan well." How do people procrastinate? Procrastination research is a
new field, but researchers are starting to describe different types of
procrastination. Two types that are particularly common are behavioral- and
decisional procrastination. Behavioral procrastination Behavioral procrastination is
a self-sabotage strategy that allows people to shift blame and avoid action,
for example: a student may do poorly in an exam and use procrastination as an
excuse. "They'd rather create the impression that they lacked effort
than ability," says Ferrari. "They can blame their failure on the
lack of time." Ferrari
also thinks that procrastinators suffer from low esteem and self-doubt and
worry about how other people judge their abilities. "Procrastinators
view their self-worth as based on ability," he says. So according to
their logic, "If I never finish the task, you can never judge my
ability." Prolonged
procrastination and failure to perform adequately creates a cycle of
self-defeating behavior, which results in a downward spiral of self-esteem.
Self-inflicted degradation and shame of this kind often translates into
stress and (mental) health problems at some point. Decisional procrastination The decisional procrastination
strategy is to put off making a decision when dealing with conflicts or
choices. People who practice high-level decisional procrastination tend to be
afraid of errors and are likely to be perfectionists. These procrastinators
seek out more and more information about alternatives before attempting to
make a decision, if they make one at all. Over-informed
decisional procrastinators run the danger of falling prey to a further
self-sabotage strategy, called optional paralysis: they create so many
choices for themselves that they feel unable to choose, for fear of choosing
an option that is less than perfect. First steps to change Insight is the first step to
change. Understanding is the second step. After that, a course of behavior
modification therapy may help, especially if procrastination is causing
serious problems in connection with work and relationships. Though there is
no Band-Aid solution for procrastination, anything that helps procrastinators
take concrete steps goes a long way to re-building a healthy level of
achievement and self-esteem and helping them feel better about themselves. Take
Clarry Lay's Procrastination Test http://my.webmd.com/content/pages/9/1674_51220 Take
the Tough Love Test for Procrastinators http://www.Inspired2Write.com/sjl/sjl25.html _________________________________________________________________________________________________ Copyright by 2004, Susan J. Letham Susan
J. Letham (service@inspired2Write.com) is a British writer, creative writing
tutor, and owner of http://www.Inspired2Write.com, where writers come to learn.
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